Thursday, December 12, 2013

Life is too dramatic.  We have gotten in over our heads financially because shortly after we bought our house I had to add insurance on my kids because their father can't afford to pay the copays for my son's weekly therapies and then my husbands child support went up.  This added about an additional $400 to our monthly bills so I have started a part time job.  So I am working my regular full time job 40 hours a week, then doing another 16 hours on the weekend.  I have been in training for over a month now and they just fired the general manager at my part time job.  So now I think I am about to lose this second job because I have called every day trying to get my schedule for this weekend and today I was told that I was off until the GM could talk to me.  She had told the assistant manager that my schedule was not flexible enough because of my full time job and that I would not be good for them.  So this is stressor number one.

Stressor number two is my husband's ex-wife.  We have been paying her monthly child support but keeping the kids majority of the time.  My husband pays her about $150 more a month for two kids than my ex pays me for three kids.  I am not sure how this happened.  We are supposed to have them 4 days a month and we continue to keep them about 20 days a month.  So we filed for primary custody.  The ex got the paperwork on Thursday.  On Friday she called the police stating that my husband is beating his daughter.  The police came (scaring the crap out of the daughter) and decided that there was nothing going on.  They called DCS as protocol and they said that if the police did not think there was a problem then they would not file a report.  So the police left and I thought it was over.  Apparently the ex was not happy about the police not doing anything so she called DCS herself.  They will be coming to our house on Monday.  Why does she have to be such a bitch?  She is only hurting the kids.

Stressor number three is my husband.  We are fighting all the time because he always is having to watch the kids.  Because I am working two jobs he stays home with them.  He is disabled so he gets a check from the VA which does not allow him to get a job.  He says he needs help with the kids but I am doing all I can do.  Up until this week I was going to school too.  That of course is going to have to be put on the back burner.  How can I help him when I have to work.  We have to pay the bills.  I just don't know what to do.  Sometimes I just feel like breaking down.  I have all I can handle on my plate and he is wanting to add more to me.  I know it is frustrating to sit home with 3 year old twins all day and then with 3 more children in the afternoon after school, but I can't do anything about it.  It is after 6pm before I get home everyday and then I usually have to get the kids ready for bed and make sure that everything is ready for in the morning.  Then they go to bed.  I get two hours a day to get everything done and spend time with the kids.  I can't be superwoman.  I just don't know how I can get this through his thick skull. 

Other than that I am just tired, I still don't like my job but I am thankful that I have one.  And as far as jobs go it is a good one.  I have state retirement, good pay and good hours.  But I hate that it is a 2 hour commute everyday and the actual job is soooo boring.  I really wish I could get something that either pays well enough for us to be financially ok, or a job that is closer to home so I would be able to spend more time with family.  But unfortunately those jobs have not been offered to me yet. 

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